Son and Mother Threatening to Destabilize All Bonding

In today's fast-paced world, women are often career-oriented, leaving less time for elaborate cooking, regular laundry, and timely ironing. This shift in roles can put a strain on relationships, particularly between partners and mothers-in-law.

The term 'mama's boy' refers to a son's extreme dependence on his mother. Men labeled as such often face difficulties in forming partnerships. Psychologists suggest that this dependence may stem from guilt, as mothers have sacrificed a significant part of their lives for their sons.

In Italy, the dynamics are somewhat unique. Men are accustomed to receiving care from their mothers that they expect in their marriages and partnerships. Consequently, many Italian men measure the qualities of their wives against their mothers, which can lead to dissatisfaction and potential relationship issues.

The lack of separation between mother and son can put a partnership in danger. When only the mother's cooking is praised, appointments are scheduled according to her calendar, and the wife feels constantly put down by the mother-in-law, it can create tension and resentment.

Refusing to become self-sufficient and maintaining a strong bond with the mother can put immense psychological strain on partners. The milder form of a 'mama's boy' can be more 'dangerous' as it puts psychological strain on partners without raising as many red flags.

On the other hand, children growing up with a career-oriented mother are less accustomed to constant care from infancy and thus more independent. This independence is crucial for preserving partnerships in adulthood.

Experts note that without paternal authority, sons may not be shown the way to life outside the family. Without the creation of freedom to show sons the way to life outside the family, a strong bond between mother and son may persist.

However, it's important to note that the strong bond between mother and son may change in the coming decades as children become more independent due to their upbringing.

A good relationship between parents and children is crucial for their future prosperity. While maintaining a good relationship with their mother is important, 'mama's boys' should establish clear boundaries and lead an independent life to preserve their partnerships.

Psychologists who have identified the causes of difficulties in the separation of sons from their mothers have assigned blame to the mothers in some cases. However, it's important to consider the dynamics in cases with narcissistic fathers, where mothers are often unfairly accused of damaging the child's well-being due to an emotional stance against the other parent.

In conclusion, the dynamics between mothers, sons, and partners are complex and multifaceted. Understanding these dynamics can help individuals navigate these relationships and foster healthier, more harmonious relationships in the future.